Why is Charisma So Important
I’d like to talk to you now about how you can become a charismatic person and attract more success into your life. What we have found is it’s a close association between personal charisma and success in life. Probably 85% of your success and Happiness will come from your relationships and interactions with other people. The more positively others respond to you, the easier it will be for you to get the things you want.In essence when we discuss charisma, we’re talking about the law of attraction. This law has been stated in many different ways down through the centuries. But it basically says that you inevitably attract into your life the people and circumstances that harmonize with your dominant thoughts. In a sense you are a living magnet and you’re constantly radiating thought waves, like a radio station radiates sound waves that are picked up by other people.
Your thoughts intensified by your emotions as radio waves are intensified by electrical impulses. They go out from you and are picked up by anyone who is tuned in to a similar wavelength. You then attract into your life people and ideas and opportunities and resources and circumstances and money and anything else that is consistent with your dominant frame of mind and with your emotionalized thoughts of the moment.
Now this law of attraction also explains how you can build up your levels of charisma so that you can have a greater and more positive impact on the people whose cooperation and support and affection you desire. The critical thing to remember about charisma is that it is largely based on perception. It’s based on what people think about you and what people think you really are. It’s not so much reality as it is what people perceive you to be. For example, one person can create charisma in another person by speaking in glowing terms about that person to a third party.
Believing is Everything
If you believe that you’re about to meet an outstanding an important person that person will tend to be charismatic when you meet them, even if you’ve been told a story. For example sometimes in my seminars i’ll say imagine that sitting next to you is a person who started with nothing and is now worth a hundred million dollars. Drives a rolls-royce, lives in a beautiful home, has a private jet, to one of the smartest business people in America or the world and the reason he’s here is because he likes to continue to upgrade his skills. Now if I told you the person next to you was this person you would see and think about this person in a totally different way. You’d say Jesus you! Wow! That person would have tremendous charisma because of this reputation that has been created for them.
For example if you walk past a rock star on the sidewalk and you didn’t recognize them at all, they would have no impact on you. But if you recognize a real rock star that you read my ‘red and respected and you would be overwhelmed with the effect that they might have on you. So everything is perception.
One of the most charismatic people in the world was Mother Teresa of Calcutta. In a physical sense she was a quiet elderly frail little woman in poor health she weighed a hundred pounds or less and she wore a modest and used nun’s happened, with a little head garment covering her hair and so on. She might have been ignored by a person passenger on the street were it not for the tremendous charisma she developed and for the fact that her appearance was so well known as so many people as a result.
I had a good friend who visited her when she was in the hospital in San Diego for heart surgery. He was allowed to meet with her for five minutes. As a favor to someone else he came out afterwards and he said the five minutes changed his life. He resigned from his profession he quit his job he moved away and start a whole new life as a result of spending five minutes with a frail older woman in a hospital bed recovering from heart surgery.
It is just because of his belief in her charisma. the one or two words that she told him about loving other people unconditionally. If someone told you that he was going to introduce you to a brilliant self-made millionaire who was very quiet and unassuming about his success. He would almost naturally imbue that person with charisma. With special abilities and in his presence you would not act the same as you would, if you’ve been told nothing at all.
Charisma begins largely in the mind of the beholder and you can affect that mental set in the mind. Lasting charisma depends more upon the person you really are then upon the things that you do. So continually look for ways to improve others perceptions of you so that you can be more influential with them.
Be a living magnet. Here’s one more secret to charisma. The more you listen to people and feel and treat them as though they are fascinating. The more they will find you fascinating as well.